Adyashanti transcribed from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWOYbXS8DgkGreat metaphor. You are not the driver of the car. 'You' are in the passenger seat.
"As long as you want to turn left when you want to turn left, apply the brakes when you want to apply the brakes, welcome to unenlightenment. Its funny that a lot of people are trying to get enlightenment by doing that very thing.
To such a person to be in the passenger seat doesnt seem interesting at all because in the passenger seat theres no illusion of control, and who wants that? But you only start to desire it when you've spent enough time at the steering wheel to realise that cars tend to go in actually pretty predictable patterns.
Its based on the fundamental misunderstanding that you are a seperate individual person, a human being, separate from the whole, separate from others, separate from life, and you need to make sure that your life and your car gets where you want it to get. If theres a prescription for suffering, i'd say thats about as accurate as you can get. The funny thing is that the very prescription for suffering is the very thing we think is a prescription for happiness....do that and you'll be happy, turn left now and you'll be happy, make your trip exactly what you want it to be and you'll be happy.
The problem is that because it is based on separation, it cant ultimately make one happy. Its not possible, ultimately. Moments, sure.....
When you explain things like this to people, egos think "well that would be kind of boring, being in the passenger seat, driven wherever it wants to drive you and you just sit there and watch the world go by". But of course that is the perspective of ego. From the perspective of wholeness, you are the car, the seat, the mysterious non-locatable driver of the car, you are the landscape in which you are driving, you are every experience which you will bump into.
So let yourself slip over into the passenger seat, not as an ego. All it requires is for us to drop our notion of ourselves."
Also by Adya:
"All of our thoughts are conditioned. We all are thinking exactly along the lines we are conditioned to think. Programmed like a computer. Anybody who thinks they are actually choosing of their own free will the line of thinking that they have is completely deluded by their thinking." (via blogger Tom Stine at http://tomstine.com/)
I'd like to answer a few problems I've heard about 'being in the passenger seat':
1 - That without 'self-control' people would go wild and drink themselves to death, or just sit on the couch and watch TV all day.
2 - That it entails nihilism. That it would mean no-one was to blame for anything, and 'good' and 'bad' would become meaningless (and thats a bad thing).
3 - That it is only correct from the 'absolute' perspective. 'Relatively' they are still in control of the car.
In answer,
1 - 'Self-control' is a perfectly natural and evolutionary process not separate from 'self-indulgence'. The idea that the 'virtuous' qualities of a person are THEIR 'willpower' and the 'evil' ones are external 'temptations' is a false duality. There are positive and negative motivations, and they do not require a separate 'controller' to keep the system from collapsing into hedonism. However, to take on the idea that you are not in control whilst still really believing you are a separate ego, will lead to self-indulgence. "Ramana Maharshi, the great sage from Arunachala, was once asked whether one has free will. He answered that as long as one considers oneself to be an individual person, one has free will and has to use it well." However when one realises the 'individual' is an illusion, it is healthy to realise you are in the passenger seat.
2 - A virus does not have free-will. But that does not mean that its actions could not cause real suffering, or that it should not be held 'responsible' and taken action against. To see that nobody can do different than they are doing is a source of great compassion. How could you get angry at a virus? It is easy to sympathise with people with addiction problems, but when we think they did have the opportunity to change and didn't we harden to their fate. This cannot happen when we see that no-one ever has control. The only conclusion is inexhaustible compassion. Note this does not mean toleration of all behaviour, it would be discompassionate to allow people to cause themselves or others preventable harm.
3 - 'Relatively' it is correct that an illusuary 'I' does make choices. In the same way that 'relatively' a cloud makes rain. In reality the cloud does nothing at all, it is just a function of pressure, humidity and temperature changes in the global weather system. So if the cloud was conscious and said that 'relatively' I do make rain, you could say yes, but you have no control over it.